Our kids are fascinated with the National Geographic Kids book series Weird but True! The books site interesting facts like:
“Slugs have 3,000 teeth and 4 noses.”
“Hot dogs can last more than 20 years in landfills.”
“A Canadian woman rode a motorized toilet up to 46 miles an hour!”
We know, fascinating facts here people!
So what does this have to do with marriage? Well, when you were dating and first got married, you enjoyed learning about your spouse. You found their likes, dislikes, habits and idiosyncrasies fascinating. Over the years though, the facts you once found to be “weird but true” have become “weird and annoying”. Instead of accepting your spouse and their differences you want to change them. A simple laugh and occasional eye roll have become full blown gripes, disrespect and a source of misery in your marriage.
The marriage challenge today is this: acceptance. Accept your spouse as a unique individual. Are they flawed? You bet! And so are you. This is not to say that open communication and confrontation have no place in dealing with marital strife but it is to say that many things in life are not really “big things”. Instead of looking at the things your spouse does as “weird and annoying” choose to let those things become reason to laugh at your differences, accept their flaws and push towards a greater level of love. On the plus side, if you send less time griping complaining and fighting about the little annoyances, maybe you”ll have time to build a motorized toilet that can go even faster!