Personal development is important to a healthy marriage relationship. Pursuing goals and personal passions can enhance the experiences and habits you bring to your marriage. In our marriage, we share common interests but we also have personal interests we pursue. The same could probably be said of your marriage. Perhaps one of you likes to train for marathon racing. Maybe one of you plays a team sport. We know a couple where the wife enjoys being a unicyclist for sport and fun. We might add, that while her husband supports this, he has not developed the same personal pursuit.
Providing margin in our lives to have time for personal pursuits is healthy and beneficial for marriage. But as with most things, when taken to the extreme, following our passions can place our marriages on parallel roads rather than keeping us on the same course. The marriage challenge today is to examine whether or not your personal pursuits are enhancing your marriage or being used as a means of escape. Take time to consider (make a list if you want) the personal pursuits for which you carve out time. Consider the ways your personal pursuit detracts from or enhances your relationship. Evaluating what is or is not working in your relationship is important and the only people who can do that evaluating is you and your spouse. Take the time to assess how your personal development is healthy and what you can do if it borders on escape rather than enhancement.
Question: Are the things I am personally pursuing right now being used to enhance my marriage or as a means of escape?
Leave a comment about how your pursuits enhance your marriage. Also, feel free to share about a time when personal pursuits may have been used as an escape and how you dealt with that.
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