We do real.
No need for perfection. No need to pretend everything is “fine”. No need to make everything appear pretty. By accepting where we are now we find the opportunity to grow.
I (Jesus) came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of. John 10:10 (The Message) (emphasis ours)
We do grace.
We inhale from God and exhale to others that which we need. Grace. Only when we recognize how much we need grace and mercy in our everyday, walking around life can we freely grant it to those we love most.
God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Ephesians 2:8 (NLT)
We do the present.
It’s important to know where we have been. Take inventory and understand how we got here. But we will not rehash every tiny detail of hurt, pain and fault involved. We look back to gain understanding, not to condemn. Continue moving forward one step at a time.
Do not remember the past events, pay no attention to things of old.
Look, I am about to do something new; even now it is coming. Do you not see it?
Indeed, I will make a way in the wilderness, rivers in the desert. Isaiah 43:18-19
We do connection.
Talk. Touch. Time. Three essentials to keep the connection alive. We make the choice to fulfill our spouses needs for connectivity and love, recognizing this is necessary to strengthen our marriage.
We do empathy.
Develop a desire to understand. We allow our spouse to think differently, respond differently and feel differently. Accepting that we are in fact different people, but it is those differences that make us who we are and brought us together.
We do love.
We recognize that love is a choice. Love covers, love encourages, love endures.
We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. 1 John 3:16
What “We do…” phrase would you add to our list?
Bloggers: Would you consider writing a “We do…” marriage list and linking in the comments? It is our desire for other couples to see that marriages are never perfect but there is hope for better tomorrows. Consider adding your voice (linking back if you would like) and showing the world what real marriages are about. Thanks!