If I (Megan) could choose a musician to compose a soundtrack for my life there is no doubt who I would choose, John Williams. Composer of some of the most iconic film scores of the last 4 decades. I have always appreciated the way he captures the suspense of the moment, the excitement of victory and the thrill of the adventure. I wonder what the score of my life would sound like? What melodies would accompany my driving kids to & from school? What refrain would be associated with my washing the dishes or doing the laundry? What theme would be associated with my marriage? My sex life? While I don’t have a sound track to accompany the story of my life, I believe I am living in the midst of a great adventure.
Each of our lives is telling a story. Our stories contain moments of excitement, victory, defeat, romance, hurt, and so much more. All of these moments are part of the adventure of life on planet earth. For those of us who are married, sex is just another aspect of our adventure. We have been writing about the 13 realities of married sex for a while now, but here’s the thing, we don’t know your story. We don’t know your situation. When we write about sex we do so from what we believe to be a biblical standpoint. A view which encourages sexual freedom within the marriage relationship. We write from our own personal experience and from knowledge gained from talking with and counseling others. However, we understand that we don’t know it all.
Perhaps the reality of married sex for you is vastly different than what we have written about. Perhaps we haven’t even begun to address how great or how awful your situation really is. That’s why we are wrapping up this series with this thought: sex is an adventure.
And here’s the thing – you get to choose how to live that adventure! Just remember that every good adventure includes ups and downs. Good and bad. We have seen many couples resign themselves to a ho-hum sex life because they just don’t believe it’s worth a great deal of effort. Or maybe it’s that the past or current reality of their sex life is considered too painful to address. Our message to those couples: Don’t give up! Sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed in marriage. Sex is meant to strengthen and build up marriage. Sex is meant to be an adventure.
So, take the opportunity to consider where your sex life currently is and move towards better understanding. It may be that you need to rewrite your story. It may be that you need to deal with your sexual past. Have the conversation with yourself. Or maybe you just need to grow in your understanding of what sex really is.
Having a strong marriage and great sex life is not automatic. It requires effort, time and lots of work. It requires an adventurous spirit and a desire to move forward. While we can’t identify every road you will travel in your sex life, be assured the adventure is worth it. Your theme song is yet to be finalized, and in the end, it is you who will compose the music that can played to the adventure of your sex life.