I (Megan) occasionally suffer from stupid stuff syndrome. Not sure what I am talking about? Let me explain. There are times when I overreact to any number of triggers or situations. Some of these are in fact completely and ridiculously insignificant. I expect I am not alone in my ability to overreact to stupid stuff. Whether my overreactions are towards myself, my husband, my children or something else, I know that ultimately I am the one in control of how I react. However, knowing that I am in control of my reactions and actually being in control of my actions are two different things. I am working on it though and want to share two tips that are helping me (and my loved ones) out.
1. NBD – No Big Deal. I constantly have to remind myself that most of what I get upset, angry or anxious about really is no big deal. In fact, I use this mantra so much with myself that I had a friend make me a bracelet with the initials NBD on it as a constant reminder. Our lives are not long on this earth and if our time is spent getting upset about the stupid stuff then we are wasting our time rather than enjoying it.
2. Let the crazy out. For me, I have to let my crazy out a little bit at a time or it is more likely to cause an explosion. Of course it’s easy to say “don’t sweat the small stuff” and practically it’s true, but there is small stuff that matters. When that small stuff piles up it can cause grief and pain. It’s important to deal with it rather than be completely passive about it. Find an activity, be it writing, exercising, art, music, etc. to engage in to release the inner emotions. And for those of us who are oral processors, it’s a good idea to give a heads up to the person we are talking to that we don’t need an answer or a way to fix it, we just need a listening ear.
In addition to those two ideas I would encourage you to take note of a few things the next time you have a stupid stuff syndrome moment. Are you well rested? Are you hungry? Are you exercising and eating nutritionally? Are you feeling emotionally connected to those you love most? Depending on your answer to these simple questions you may be able to identify some of the reasons for your breakdown. Work on fulfilling these areas and you just may be able to circumvent some occurrences of stupid stuff syndrome.