This fall, at the start of the NCAA college football season I (Megan) heard it. The chime telling me that Justin’s phone was signaling him. I thought it was just a text but it turns out it was the calendar on his phone reminding him to watch the opening game of his beloved Mountaineers. Really!?! There is NO WAY he was going to forget the game but he diligently placed it in his calendar because it was important to him.
I think we can easily apply that same principle in our marriages. There are times in marriage when we assume that our spouse knows what we are feeling, thinking or communicating. We say to ourselves, “My husband knows I love him. He knows that I appreciate him.” Or, “Of course my wife knows I love her. I married her.”
There is only one problem with all the assuming going on, if the words don’t ever pass through our lips it’s quite possible our spouse doesn’t actually feel loved. If our actions don’t show appreciation or respect, the insecurities, fears and failures may drown out what we believe to be obvious. Our actions and our words have the ability to build up or tear down our marriage. So that is our challenge. Set a reminder. Remind yourself to tell and show your spouse what you know they most want/need to hear. There is never a better time to make your spouse feel loved than right now.
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