In our post yesterday we wrote the first three ideas about how to add some curb appeal to your marriage. Today we will continue the list.
1. Speak well of your spouse.
2. Be honest about your marital struggles.
3. Find a mentor and be a mentor.
4. Be generous.
Generosity comes in all shapes and sizes. You can be generous with your time, your talents, your energy, your encouragement, and your service. As humans we all tend towards selfishness and self-centeredness, but taking the first step in being generous to the one with whom you share your life makes a huge difference. It is so much better to be married to someone who is generous rather than stingy. It’s important to remember that when it comes to generosity, your life will be changed as a result of giving generously. It is great to have that generosity returned but even when it’s not, serving your spouse still changes you, and it changes you for the better.
5. Forget the bad, remember the good.
All marriages experience both good times and bad. There are instances when remembering the commitment you made to your spouse will pull you through a difficult season. There are times when forgetting past wrongs will enable you to experience the freedom of the here and now and provide hope for the future rather than keep you stuck. Forgetting the bad and remembering the good will help you to enjoy your marriage, your family, and help you recognize that the best is yet to come. And when others see you always focusing on the positives, they’ll begin to desire the same curb appeal for their marriage as well.
These 5 Tips for Greater Curb Appeal don’t come naturally. They each take a lot of work. But marriages who consistently apply these 5 principles experience a great amount of joy, satisfaction and peace. They may not be “perfect” marriages, but they are “consistent” to excel in these areas. They get noticed, and not because they’re trying to be noticed, but simply because they’re fulfilling God’s plan for the covenant of marriage.