This is part 3 in a series all about incorporating the 5 senses in your marriage bed.
“Touch” is kind of a no-brainer when it comes to physical intimacy. There is no intimacy without some kind of touch, right? Right. Nevertheless, there are certain things that can be done to make your experience that much more pleasing for you both.
1) Discover where your spouse likes to be touched. This seems very simple, but the truth is there will be places he or she will prefer to be touched more than others. If you ask them where these places are and they reply by saying, “I enjoy our time together and I don’t really have anything specific to add here,” they’re not being completely open. There are very specific ways they want to be touched, held, and caressed during the act of love making. Your spouse has a mental image of what the perfect sexual experience with you looks like, and you owe it to them to discover what that is and how to get them there.
Additionally, there is most likely a number of places on their body they want be touched and they want it to happen in a very specific order. When you find those spots and walk through them gradually during your time together, the results will amaze them and make the sexual experience just that much more enjoyable for the two of you. But if you go for the “Jackpot” place of touch too soon, it may cause a negative reaction because they just weren’t ready for that yet.
2) Consider using something other than your hands. You have appendages attached to your body other than your arms. Wrapping your spouse tightly with your legs just may bring a response that you could never accomplish with your hands. And yes, you’re always welcome to get creative with your feet as well. Just be careful, a reflex kick reaction could turn a moment of pleasure into an apologetic moment of pain.
3) Use massage oils. There are lotions and oils available for massaging that make foreplay much more interesting. And yes, there are oils/gels you can use elsewhere on your body as well. If Yours and Mine isn’t your cup of tea, keep searching. You’ll discover something you both enjoy.
Have another tip on how to better incorporate “touch” in your time together? Feel free to drop us a line in the comments below!