Everybody has seen them, the articles claiming to have the 5 secrets to drive your mate wild, or seven kinky ideas to change your sex life. Truthfully, they don’t ever pique our interest because we are not convinced they are going to tell us anything we don’t already know or that we couldn’t come up with by using a little creativity. Therefore, we are going to let you in on one of the secrets to great sex. It is something you have known for years. You ready? Use your 5 senses.
Seems simple enough but for some reason taking time to think through how to engage all your senses in love making can produce some heart pounding results.
Before we continue, we’d like to let you know that men and women will respond differently with their senses. For example, women may not find “sight” very helpful during lovemaking, while men may respond better to what they see. Knowing how to respond appropriately to your mate’s 5 senses is key. With that said, here are a few pointers to ensure you’re using the sense of sight effectively.
Clothing: It’s true that most married couples just want to “get to it”. Foreplay isn’t frequent and some lengthy research has found that the typical sexual experience for couples lasts anywhere from 3-13 minutes. But this doesn’t always have to be the case. And our advice for women on this subject is to occasionally wear something sexy. This will help you to stay mentally focused throughout the day (you know you can’t wait to show it to him) and just the sight of you wearing something he wasn’t expecting will help him go from 0-70 mph in seconds. Be honest, you spend lots of money on eating out, movies, and other things throughout the year. You owe it to your marriage to spend some cash on a couple of sexy outfits a year. Men you can find out what “look” turns your wife on so you can wear (or not wear) to her liking.
Lighting: This is one area of the sexual experience that’s extremely important. Lights on? Lights off? Dim light? How dim? One of you may have one preference while the other may have a completely different one. Therefore you ought to take turns with your preference, or find a middle ground you both agree on.
Clutter: Does your bedroom have dirty laundry lying around, or other stuff that should be placed somewhere else? Remove all unnecessary clutter and distractions from your bedroom and make it an environment that looks appealing for sex. Staying mentally focused and keeping our eyes right where they should be is a definite plus.
Have any questions or comments about using the five senses? Feel free to let us know in the comments below.