I’m not quite ready to go public with my identity in front of the millions of readers of DoNotDisturb and I fear that my teenagers might stumble on this blog and realize that their parents have had sex more than the 4 times that produced offspring. That being said, I appreciate the opportunity that Justin and Megan have given me to be a guest blogger.
I came to a startling realization in the last two weeks. My wife and I pay for sex, and that’s ok. We don’t pay for sex in the traditional way that the title of this blog brings to mind. But I have come to the realization that my wife and I spend money in order to have a better sex life, and as a result a healthier marriage.
A few weekends ago, we were out of town for one night. We took along our middle schooler and our high schooler. The norm in our family when we travel is to all cram into one hotel room because I’m cheap. On this night, I decided to splurge and get a room for the kids so that my wife and I could have a room to ourselves. It was a great decision because the reality is that we have better sex in a hotel.
This past Saturday my wife and I made plans to go on a date. Typically we would buy the kids a pizza to have at home while we went out to our favorite restaurant. This time we did something different. We gave the kids money and sent them to a restaurant that was twice the cost of ordering pizza. After they left, we had a thought…. a very good thought. Instead of having sex at the end of our date night, why not start the night with sex since the kids were out of the house. It was a great decision because the reality is that we have better sex in our own bed when there are no kids in the house.
While the title of my blog is intended to be a bit provocative, spending money on your marriage and particularly your sex life is a good thing. It doesn’t have to be spending money on a hotel room or sending the kids to dinner. It may be buying a piece of sexy lingerie or a bottle of massage oil or whipped cream and strawberries or having a romantic dinner out. The point is that we invest money (and time) into what matters most to us so it makes sense to invest money (and time) into sex lives.
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Discuss with your spouse:
1. What are one or two things we regularly pay for that we can spend less on so that we can better spend it on our sex lives?
2. What are some ideas as to how we can use this money to pay for better sex over the summer?