It’s one constant in life we can count on.
Unfortunately, knowing that change is part of life doesn’t always make it easier to accept. Right now, we are in the midst of some very exciting change in our personal lives. Justin mentioned in our Frantic Friday post that we are in the midst of moving into a new facility with our church. As a pastor’s family we are extremely busy with last minute details, meetings and installations. Feeling connected during this busy time is important to us but practically knowing how to stay connected is providing much room for improvement.
During seasons of change or busyness, here are some thoughts to keep in mind:
1. Be on the look out for ways to serve your spouse.
While Justin’s love language* is words of affirmation through and through, I am finding that right now acts of service mean a great deal too. Yesterday I spent the day washing the cars and mowing the lawn because I knew it would be greatly appreciated.
Taking on a household responsibility that would normally fall to the shoulders of your spouse can lighten their load. Or perhaps you are both equally busy and neither of you can take on more responsibility. In that instance, maybe you could work together on a task to show you support each other and are on the same team. It could even mean that hiring someone else to help out for the time being would prove to be the biggest blessing you could give one another. Take time to consider how you can best serve each other and follow through.
2. Make room in your life to practice introspection and quiet.
If you’re anything like me, during busy seasons introspection is the first thing to go. Healthy eating, regular exercise, adequate sleep, healthy relational connections all seem to fade away. Though this is typical it’s not wise. Taking a few minutes each day to evaluate what is most important and then living that out is essential.
As a believer in Christ, I know the importance of staying connected to God and it’s my chief desire to glorify Him in all I do. By making time to sit quietly and have my mind renewed, I am being far more productive than if I were to start immediately on my “to do” list. Consider today how you can leave margin in your life in order to sit quietly and reflectively. The ability to do this will impact how you move through your day and accomplish the tasks set before you.
“Exchange whispers with God before shouts with the world.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst
3. Adopt a “what works best now” mindset.
“Always” and “Never” kind of thinking during seasons of busyness or change can be detrimental. It is selfishness that thinks everything should remain the same all the time. Stamp out selfishness by learning to accept and look for the ways love is showing up in your relationship. Voice concerns if the period of neglect is turning into a habit of neglect but understanding that for the time being, what is working now, may not be permanent.
These are just a few of the things that I am trying to apply to our marriage right now and thought you might be able to use them as well. Please feel free to share what works for you during your most busy times in life.
* For more information on love languages, check out the book 5 Love Languages or the website.